Recently my larger-than-life 92 year old grandfather passed away. We were beyond lucky to have him in our lives for so long and I feel especially blessed that he could meet my little boy. Losing my last living grandparent has really made me reflect on the importance of family stories and honouring those special to us in life’s significant events. Of course, as I write a wedding blog, I have been thinking up cute ways to include loved ones who cannot be with us (whether they are deceased or just far away) on the biggest day of love in our lives… Hope you enjoy these ideas!
An easy and gorgeous way to include significant people in your life that cannot be there celebrating with you is to place a favourite photo of them either at your ceremony or reception. For our Brisbane wedding, we displayed both sets of parents’ wedding portraits next to our cake, both as a nod to our amazing heritages and because Simon’s family were not physically present. A brilliant idea that I adore is a “generations of love” series, with happy images of parents, grandparents and great-grandparents on both sides.
A ‘Memory Table’
I recently saw a beautifully decorated ‘memory table’ that a couple had at their reception to commemorate those friends and family who were no longer with them. The table had framed photos, mementos and beautifully lit candles. What a gorgeous tribute.
Using and/or Wearing Unique Keepsakes
Something close to my heart is the ability to incorporate significant pieces/memories/traditions into your day to honour those you love. There are so many gorgeous sentimental ideas out there on Pinterest, Etsy and wedding blogs to get inspiration from.
On my wedding day(s), my flowers were a nod to my Poppy and Gran. They had hydrangeas growing in their front yard and so including those blooms made me feel like they were there with me. I also had a special note written to my Grandmother on her wedding day tucked into my bouquet and a vintage brooch that belonged to my Gran pinned on the ribbon.
I have had the privilege of lending our Gran’s engagement ring as the “something borrowed” to both of my beautiful cousins when they were brides.
The list is really endless when it comes to what treasures you can use as a nod to someone you hold dear. Don’t forget that other family members might be happy to lend you items they have too . Here are some suggestions.
Brides – hair accessories; jewellery – earrings, bracelet, brooch, ring, a necklace; a garter, a veil, a family wedding dress. You can also put pictures in a locket to wear or pin in your dress.
Grooms – a watch, tie, cufflinks, pocket square, socks or a jacket.
Let me know if you had any other creative ways of celebrating and commemorating people who couldn’t be there when you got married. I’d love to hear from you in the comments. Abby xx